Ladies, stop giving away yourself for free...Part 3.

Hello everyone, I know it's been a while, I attended a training and have been working on a variety of new creative work since then. But I'm back, so let's get back into it.

So, here's lesson #3. Letting go.

Letting go is the hardest thing for me to do, because when I care, like or love someone, I really do. So it's really hard for me to walk away after I've given, done and invested so much into someone. Once I let go, I let go, moving on and starting over is a piece of cake for me.

I have been given so many reasons to let go and move on, but I loved him so much. I invested too much and he was the closest thing to what I was looking for in a partner and in a relationship. So, I tried to figure out what I couldn't find out; what went wrong? How do I fix it? Can I fix it?

Even after the official breakup, mentally on occasion, I revisit the relationship as if it was a real place and relive the memories. I go through the cycle of shoulda, coulda and wouldas. If I had known that when I started talking to him, that when he said, "I'm looking for a serious relationship, and I'm not going to play any games." That those words were lies, lies that I fell in love with, lies that incarcerated me for years, that I would have had to fought, FOUGHT to get my freedom back.

Now, I'm not so quick to believe everything I'm told, because people don't need a reason to lie, people lie because they are liars. Their deceitfulness has nothing to do with who you are as a person.

I have come a long way, letting go and walking away from something, and someone that's not good for me has become easier. There were times I wished I could be like other people and just cut someone off and move on like nothing, but I had to accept that about myself. I'm not less of a person because I take too long to let go, but because of this truth, I now know how to protect myself and not rush into things because of the challenge I experience trying to get out.

Honestly, while I knew that I should leave, the pain of giving up and the pain of staying made me hate myself because either way I would experience pain. All because someone decided to lie to me, and gets to move on as if.

I learned not to stop my life or wrap it around some new guy. I have also learned not to make them a part of my daily routine. It makes it harder for me to let go of them, because they became a part of my life every day.

Letting someone go and walking out and away from people and situations, have become less of a challenge. It's a weakness that I've embraced and have made conscious effort to protect it from beinf exposed and exploited.

I certainly hope you enjoyed this piece, I'm grateful for your support. Stay tuned for the next lesson on this series.